Body Language Mistakes

We make our first impression within split seconds, not just on oral dialogue but also attire, and body language supported with a smile and handshake.

Subconscious feelings on the first meet revolve around competency, likeability, threats and trust.  A relationship can be blown swiftly. 

Here are some body language mistakes to take onboard:

• Breaking eye contact too soon – This can make you seem untrustworthy or nervous.  Hold eye contact longer especially during a handshake.
• Nodding too much – This is not a time to mimic a bobble head doll.  Even if you agree with the conversation, nod once and try to remain still but attentive.
• Babbling – Answer the questions asked, precisely.  Employers don’t want to hear your full life story!  Listening is also key in an interview.
• Leaning forward – This shows signs of aggression.  Aim for a neutral, more acceptable posture.
• Leaning back – This can portray you as being lazy or arrogant.
• Finger pointing – Resonates aggression and dominance.
• Crossing arms – Many mixed messages here.  Positions you as defensive, especially when answering questions.  Try to keep your arms at your side or middle body.
• Fidgeting – Avoid at all costs, shows you are somewhat nervous.
• Hands behind your back or in pockets – Gives the impression of being rigid and stiff.  Aim for a ‘natural hands at your side’ posture.
• Looking up, looking around – Provokes thoughts of lying or not being true than their true selves.  Try to hold steady eye contact. 
• Staring – This can be construed as aggressive.  There is a fine line between gaze and staring them down.
• No Smile – Makes people uncomfortable when there is no smile.  Multiple thoughts can make you wonder if they are unhappy or if they really want to be in that environment.  Give a genuine smile when meeting someone.
• Checking your phone or watch – Too prevalent today giving the impression that you really want to be somewhere else.  Let’s face it, very bad manners.

Can you recall a time when someone used these body language mistakes?  Are there any body language blunders you would like to add?  If so, please leave a comment below.