We make our first impression within split seconds, not just on oral dialogue but also attire, and body language supported with a smile and handshake.
Subconscious feelings on the first meet revolve around competency, likeability, threats and trust. A relationship can be blown swiftly.
Here are some body language mistakes to take onboard:
- Breaking eye contact too soon – This can make you seem untrustworthy or nervous. Hold eye contact longer especially during a handshake.
- Nodding too much – This is not a time to mimic a bobble head doll. Even if you agree with the conversation, nod once and try to remain still but attentive.
- Babbling – Answer the questions asked, precisely. Employers don’t want to hear your full life story! Listening is also key in an interview.
- Leaning forward – This shows signs of aggression. Aim for a neutral, more acceptable posture.
- Leaning back – This can portray you as being lazy or arrogant.
- Finger pointing – Resonates aggression and dominance.
- Crossing arms – Many mixed messages here. Positions you as defensive, especially when answering questions. Try to keep your arms at your side or middle body.
- Fidgeting – Avoid at all costs, shows you are somewhat nervous.
- Hands behind your back or in pockets – Gives the impression of being rigid and stiff. Aim for a ‘natural hands at your side’ posture.
- Looking up, looking around – Provokes thoughts of lying or not being true than their true selves. Try to hold steady eye contact.
- Staring – This can be construed as aggressive. There is a fine line between gaze and staring them down.
- No Smile – Makes people uncomfortable when there is no smile. Multiple thoughts can make you wonder if they are unhappy or if they really want to be in that environment. Give a genuine smile when meeting someone.
- Checking your phone or watch – Too prevalent today giving the impression that you really want to be somewhere else. Let’s face it, very bad manners.
Can you recall a time when someone used these body language mistakes? Are there any body language blunders you would like to add? If so, please leave a comment below.